{"id":50,"date":"2020-06-03T11:12:00","date_gmt":"2020-06-03T08:12:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/baytutumlu.com\/index.php\/2020\/06\/03\/dost-kazanma-ve-insanlari-etkileme-sanati-kitabindan-kesitler\/"},"modified":"2024-06-27T22:25:50","modified_gmt":"2024-06-27T19:25:50","slug":"dost-kazanma-ve-insanlari-etkileme-sanati-kitabindan-kesitler","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/baytutumlu.com\/index.php\/2020\/06\/03\/dost-kazanma-ve-insanlari-etkileme-sanati-kitabindan-kesitler\/","title":{"rendered":"Dost Kazanma ve \u0130nsanlar\u0131 Etkileme Sanat\u0131 Kitab\u0131ndan Kesitler"},"content":{"rendered":"<div>\n<div style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/1.bp.blogspot.com\/-HZhmrHicj64\/XtdZiSNhspI\/AAAAAAAAAUo\/zUac9Fw0fgIbhEAonNRN1WOu4XQWm8fewCK4BGAsYHg\/dale%2Bcarnegie.jpeg?ssl=1\" style=\"margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" border=\"0\" data-original-height=\"550\" data-original-width=\"550\" height=\"400\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/1.bp.blogspot.com\/-HZhmrHicj64\/XtdZiSNhspI\/AAAAAAAAAUo\/zUac9Fw0fgIbhEAonNRN1WOu4XQWm8fewCK4BGAsYHg\/w400-h400\/dale%2Bcarnegie.jpeg?resize=400%2C400&#038;ssl=1\" width=\"400\" data-recalc-dims=\"1\" \/><\/a><\/div>\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Warren Buffett&#8217;\u0131n da hayat\u0131nda \u00e7ok b\u00fcy\u00fck yer tutan ve ofisinde duvara \u00e7er\u00e7eveletip ast\u0131\u011f\u0131 tek sertifikay\u0131 ald\u0131\u011f\u0131 kursun e\u011fitmeni Dale Carnegie&#8217;nin&nbsp;Dost Kazanma ve \u0130nsanlar\u0131 Etkileme Sanat\u0131 isimli kitab\u0131ndan be\u011fendi\u011fim k\u0131s\u0131mlar\u0131 payla\u015ft\u0131m. Umar\u0131m faydal\u0131 olur. Keyifli okumalar.<\/div>\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Bay Tutumlu<\/div>\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span><a name='more'><\/a><\/span><\/div>\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><\/div>\n<div>\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">\u0130nsanlar ne kadar yanl\u0131\u015f hareket etseler de kendilerinin ele\u015ftirilmesine dayanamazlar. Ele\u015ftiri insan\u0131 savunma durumuna ge\u00e7irir, insanlar, kendilerini hakl\u0131 g\u00f6stermeye sevketti\u011fi i\u00e7in zararl\u0131d\u0131r. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc insan\u0131n gururunu zedeler.<\/div>\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Dale Carnegie, Dost kazanma ve insanlar\u0131 etkileme sanat\u0131, pg. 14, loc. 179-181<\/div>\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">\u0130\u015fte insan b\u00f6yledir. Kendisinden ba\u015fka herkesi tenkit etmek insan\u0131n yap\u0131s\u0131nda vard\u0131r. O halde bir ba\u015fkas\u0131n\u0131 ele\u015ftirmeden \u00f6nce bu \u00f6rnekleri g\u00f6z\u00f6n\u00fcnde bulundurmam\u0131z gerekir. B\u00fct\u00fcn ele\u015ftirilerin yuvalar\u0131ndan u\u00e7an g\u00fcvercinler gibi yuvalar\u0131na geri d\u00f6neceklerini hat\u0131rlayal\u0131m.<\/div>\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Dale Carnegie, Dost kazanma ve insanlar\u0131 etkileme sanat\u0131, pg. 15, loc. 205-207<\/div>\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Konf\u00fc\u00e7y\u00fcs der ki: &#8220;Kap\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 temizlemeden kom\u015funun dam\u0131ndaki karlardan \u015fik\u00e2yet etmeyiniz.&#8221;<\/div>\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Dale Carnegie, Dost kazanma ve insanlar\u0131 etkileme sanat\u0131, pg. 19, loc. 251-252<\/div>\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Bir insana istedi\u011fimiz bir \u015feyi yapt\u0131rman\u0131n bir tek yolu vard\u0131r. O da o insanda bu \u015feyi yapmas\u0131 i\u00e7in istek uyand\u0131rmakt\u0131r. Bunun ba\u015fka \u00e7aresi yoktur.<\/div>\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Dale Carnegie, Dost kazanma ve insanlar\u0131 etkileme sanat\u0131, pg. 20, loc. 268-269<\/div>\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Her insan \u015funlar\u0131 ister: 1- Sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 olmak ve hayat\u0131n\u0131 devam ettirmek 2- Uyumak 3- Beslenmek 4- Para kazanmak ve paran\u0131n elde edebilece\u011fi \u015feylere ula\u015fmak 5- \u00d6l\u00fcmden sonraki hayata ula\u015fmak 6- Cinsi ihtiya\u00e7lar\u0131n\u0131 tatmin etmek 7- \u00c7ocuklar\u0131n\u0131n iyi durumda olmas\u0131 8- \u00d6nemli bir insan olmak<\/div>\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Dale Carnegie, Dost kazanma ve insanlar\u0131 etkileme sanat\u0131, pg. 21, loc. 277-281<\/div>\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">\u0130nsanlar kendilerine vermek istedikleri ehemmiyeti tatmin i\u00e7in ak\u0131llar\u0131n\u0131 bile kaybederek ona ula\u015ft\u0131klar\u0131na g\u00f6re biz ba\u015fkalar\u0131na kar\u015f\u0131 samimi takdirlerimizi bildirerek neleri ba\u015faraca\u011f\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 tahmin edebilirsiniz.<\/div>\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Dale Carnegie, Dost kazanma ve insanlar\u0131 etkileme sanat\u0131, pg. 25, loc. 330-331<\/div>\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Schwab diyor ki: &#8220;En b\u00fcy\u00fck \u00f6zelli\u011fim, insanlara heyecan verebilmektir. \u0130nsan\u0131n en \u00f6nemli \u00f6zelliklerini takdir ve te\u015fvik ederim. Amirlerinin ele\u015ftirisi kadar insanlar\u0131n ihtiraslar\u0131n\u0131 \u00f6ld\u00fcren bir \u015fey yoktur. Ben kimseyi ele\u015ftirmedim. \u0130nsana, \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmak i\u00e7in h\u0131z verilmesine inan\u0131yorum. Onun i\u00e7in ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131 \u00f6vmeye<\/div>\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">bay\u0131l\u0131r\u0131m. Ba\u015fkalar\u0131nda kusur bulmaktan \u00e7ekinirim. Bir \u015feyi be\u011fendi\u011fim zaman takdirimi belirtmekten zevk al\u0131r\u0131m.&#8221;<\/div>\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Dale Carnegie, Dost kazanma ve insanlar\u0131 etkileme sanat\u0131, pg. 25, loc. 336-340<\/div>\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">\u0130nsanlar\u0131 etkilemenin tek yolu onlar\u0131n istekleriyle ilgilenmek ve onlar\u0131n isteklerini yerine getirmektir.<\/div>\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Dale Carnegie, Dost kazanma ve insanlar\u0131 etkileme sanat\u0131, pg. 27, loc. 366-367<\/div>\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Mesel\u00e2 o\u011flunuzun sigara i\u00e7mesini istemiyorsan\u0131z, ona nasihat ederek i\u015fe ba\u015flamay\u0131n\u0131z, ona kendi iste\u011finizi y\u00fcklemek istedi\u011finizi g\u00f6stermeyiniz. Mesela onun ilgilendi\u011fi bir sporla s\u00f6ze ba\u015flayarak sigara i\u00e7en insanlar\u0131n bu sporda ba\u015far\u0131s\u0131zl\u0131\u011fa u\u011frad\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131 anlat\u0131n\u0131z.<\/div>\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Dale Carnegie, Dost kazanma ve insanlar\u0131 etkileme sanat\u0131, pg. 27, loc. 367-369<\/div>\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">E\u011fer ben bu \u015fekilde hareket etmeyerek kiran\u0131n artt\u0131r\u0131lmas\u0131na ait olan mektubu al\u0131r almaz sinirlenip derhal otel m\u00fcd\u00fcr\u00fcne ko\u015farak: &#8211; Biletler da\u011f\u0131t\u0131ld\u0131, gazetelere ilanlar verildi, siz nas\u0131l kiray\u0131 artt\u0131rmaya kalk\u0131yorsunuz, bu sizin yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z, ay\u0131pt\u0131\u201d Deseydim sonu\u00e7 ne olurdu? Bu y\u00fczden tart\u0131\u015facakt\u0131k ve<\/div>\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">birbirimize d\u00fc\u015fman olacakt\u0131k. Ben hakl\u0131 \u00e7\u0131ksam bile onun gururunu k\u0131racakt\u0131m.<\/div>\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Dale Carnegie, Dost kazanma ve insanlar\u0131 etkileme sanat\u0131, pg. 30, loc. 404-407<\/div>\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Bernard Shaw, bir g\u00fcn \u015funu ileri s\u00fcrm\u00fc\u015ft\u00fc: &#8220;Birisine bir\u015fey \u00f6\u011fretmek isterseniz asla \u00f6\u011frenmez.&#8221; Shaw hakl\u0131d\u0131r. \u00d6\u011frenme insan\u0131n i\u00e7inde do\u011facak bir faaliyettir. \u0130nsanlar bir i\u015fi yaparak \u00f6\u011frenirler.<\/div>\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Dale Carnegie, Dost kazanma ve insanlar\u0131 etkileme sanat\u0131, pg. 35, loc. 478-480<\/div>\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Siz insanlarla ilgilenmezseniz insanlar sizinle ni\u00e7in ilgilensin? Biz ba\u015fkalar\u0131 \u00fczerinde iyi bir izlenim b\u0131rakarak onlar\u0131n bizimle ilgilenmelerini beklersek<\/div>\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">hi\u00e7bir zaman hakik\u00ee, samimi dost sahibi olamay\u0131z.<\/div>\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Dale Carnegie, Dost kazanma ve insanlar\u0131 etkileme sanat\u0131, pg. 38, loc. 512-514<\/div>\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">&#8220;Hareketlerin duygular\u0131 takip etti\u011fi g\u00f6r\u00fcl\u00fcr. Fakat ger\u00e7ekte hareket ve duygular birliktedir, irademizin denetimi alt\u0131nda bulunan hareketlerimiz sonucunda irademizin denetimi alt\u0131nda bulunmayan duygular\u0131m\u0131z ortaya \u00e7\u0131kar. &#8220;Bundan dolay\u0131 ne\u015femizin kayboldu\u011fu zaman ne\u015feli davranmak her \u015feyi halledecektir.\u201d D\u00fcnyada herkes mutlu olmak ister ve mutluluk arar. Bunun bir tek yolu vard\u0131r. O da d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncelerimizi kontrol etmektir. Mutluluk d\u0131\u015f etkenlere ba\u011fl\u0131 de\u011fildir, i\u00e7 d\u00fcnyam\u0131zla alakal\u0131d\u0131r.<\/div>\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Dale Carnegie, Dost kazanma ve insanlar\u0131 etkileme sanat\u0131, pg. 45, loc. 624-628<\/div>\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Hemen hemen ayn\u0131 \u015fartlarda bulunan iki insandan birisi kendini mutlu, di\u011feri mutsuz hisseder. Neden? \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc bu iki insan\u0131n d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnceleri farkl\u0131d\u0131r.<\/div>\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Dale Carnegie, Dost kazanma ve insanlar\u0131 etkileme sanat\u0131, pg. 46, loc. 629-630<\/div>\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">\u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc g\u00fcl\u00fcmsemeye en \u00e7ok muhta\u00e7 olan ki\u015fi, ba\u015fkalar\u0131na verecek tebess\u00fcm\u00fc olmayan kimsedir.<\/div>\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Dale Carnegie, Dost kazanma ve insanlar\u0131 etkileme sanat\u0131, pg. 47, loc. 647-647<\/div>\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">sa\u011flam\u0131\u015ft\u0131m. G\u00fczel bir konu\u015fmac\u0131 olman\u0131n s\u0131rr\u0131 neydi? Charles Eliot&#8217;a g\u00f6re &#8220;Bunun hi\u00e7bir s\u0131rr\u0131 yoktur. Sizinle konu\u015fan kimseye b\u00fct\u00fcn dikkatinizi vermektir&#8221; der. Bunu \u00f6\u011frenmek i\u00e7in Harward&#8217;a gitmek mi gerekir diyeceksiniz. Ama ben i\u00e7inizde \u00f6yle t\u00fcccarlar tan\u0131yorum ki i\u015f yerlerini en iyi \u015fekilde dizayn ederler, ama s\u00f6z dinlemeyi bilmeyen i\u015f\u00e7iler kullan\u0131rlar.<\/div>\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Dale Carnegie, Dost kazanma ve insanlar\u0131 etkileme sanat\u0131, pg. 53, loc. 724-727<\/div>\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">G\u00fczel bir konu\u015fmac\u0131 olman\u0131n s\u0131rr\u0131 neydi? Charles Eliot&#8217;a g\u00f6re &#8220;Bunun hi\u00e7bir s\u0131rr\u0131 yoktur. Sizinle konu\u015fan kimseye b\u00fct\u00fcn dikkatinizi vermektir&#8221; der. Bunu \u00f6\u011frenmek i\u00e7in Harward&#8217;a gitmek mi gerekir diyeceksiniz. Ama ben i\u00e7inizde \u00f6yle t\u00fcccarlar tan\u0131yorum ki i\u015f yerlerini en iyi \u015fekilde dizayn ederler, ama s\u00f6z dinlemeyi bilmeyen i\u015f\u00e7iler kullan\u0131rlar.<\/div>\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Dale Carnegie, Dost kazanma ve insanlar\u0131 etkileme sanat\u0131, pg. 53, loc. 724-727<\/div>\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">\u0130yi konu\u015fan bir insan olarak tan\u0131nmay\u0131 istiyorsan\u0131z, \u00f6nce dinlemeyi \u00f6\u011freniniz. Northam Lee&#8217;in s\u00f6yledi\u011fi gibi &#8220;ilgi uyand\u0131rmak m\u0131 istiyorsunuz, ilgilenmeyi biliniz.&#8221; Kar\u015f\u0131n\u0131zdakinin seve seve cevap verece\u011fi sorular sorunuz ve onu kendisinden bahsetmeye te\u015fvik ediniz. Herkesin sizi sevmesini istiyorsan\u0131z d\u00f6rd\u00fcnc\u00fc kural \u015fudur: Kar\u015f\u0131n\u0131zdakini dinlemeyi bilin ve ona kendisinden bahsetme f\u0131rsat\u0131n\u0131 verin!<\/div>\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Dale Carnegie, Dost kazanma ve insanlar\u0131 etkileme sanat\u0131, pg. 55, loc. 764-768<\/div>\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">O halde ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131n sizinle ilgilenmesini istiyorsan\u0131z be\u015finci kural \u015fudur: Ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131n ilgilendikleri \u015feyleri \u00f6\u011freniniz ve kendilerine onlardan bahsediniz.<\/div>\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Dale Carnegie, Dost kazanma ve insanlar\u0131 etkileme sanat\u0131, pg. 58, loc. 797-799<\/div>\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Kenan da\u011flar\u0131nda ondokuz y\u00fczy\u0131l \u00f6nce m\u00fcritlerine ders veren bir filozof bir g\u00fcn \u015fu s\u00f6z\u00fc s\u00f6ylemi\u015fti: &#8220;Vermek almaktan daha hay\u0131rl\u0131d\u0131r.\u201dBu insan davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131n\u0131n en \u00f6nemli kural\u0131d\u0131r. Bu kurala uyarsak ba\u015f\u0131m\u0131z hi\u00e7bir zaman derde girmez. Belki de bu kural\u0131 uygulamak bize say\u0131s\u0131z dostlar kazand\u0131r\u0131r.<\/div>\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Dale Carnegie, Dost kazanma ve insanlar\u0131 etkileme sanat\u0131, pg. 59, loc. 809-811<\/div>\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Tart\u0131\u015fmalar\u0131n onda dokuzu iki taraftan birisinin hakl\u0131 oldu\u011funa daha fazla inanmas\u0131yla sonu\u00e7lanm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r. Tart\u0131\u015fmay\u0131 kazanman\u0131n imkan\u0131 yoktur. Kazanamazs\u0131n\u0131z; \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc tart\u0131\u015fmay\u0131 kaybettiyseniz kazanamad\u0131n\u0131z demektir. Kazansan\u0131z da kay\u0131pt\u0131r Neden mi? Diyelim ki kar\u015f\u0131n\u0131zdakinin fikirlerini \u00e7\u00fcr\u00fctt\u00fcn\u00fcz. Bu durumda kendinizi \u00fcst\u00fcn hissedeceksiniz. Ve bu sizin ho\u015funuza gidecek. Ama ya kar\u015f\u0131n\u0131zdaki? Onu k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcrd\u00fcn\u00fcz ve gururunu k\u0131rd\u0131n\u0131z. Sizin zaferiniz onun hi\u00e7 ho\u015funa gitmeyecektir.<\/div>\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Dale Carnegie, Dost kazanma ve insanlar\u0131 etkileme sanat\u0131, pg. 68, loc. 941-945<\/div>\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">&#8220;Ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131n bana uymayan d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncelerine tahamm\u00fcl etmeye ve onlar\u0131n d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncelerini ileri s\u00fcrmelerine kendimi al\u0131\u015ft\u0131rd\u0131m. Hatta &#8220;\u015e\u00fcphe yok ki&#8221; &#8220;Muhakkak ki&#8221; gibi kelimeleri kullanmamaya ba\u015flad\u0131m. Onlar\u0131n yerine &#8220;zannederim&#8221; &#8220;akl\u0131mda kald\u0131\u011f\u0131 kadar\u0131yla&#8221; &#8220;tahmin etti\u011fime g\u00f6re&#8221; &#8216;gibi kelimeleri kullanmaya ba\u015flad\u0131m. Ba\u015fkas\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncesini ileri s\u00fcrd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcnde ve ben bu d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnceyi yanl\u0131\u015f g\u00f6rd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcm zaman tart\u0131\u015fmaya girmemeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015ft\u0131m.<\/div>\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Dale Carnegie, Dost kazanma ve insanlar\u0131 etkileme sanat\u0131, pg. 75, loc. 1032-1035<\/div>\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">\u0130kinci kural \u015fudur: Ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131n d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncelerine sayg\u0131 g\u00f6steriniz ve kimseye yanl\u0131\u015f d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fc s\u00f6ylemeyiniz.<\/div>\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Dale Carnegie, Dost kazanma ve insanlar\u0131 etkileme sanat\u0131, pg. 76, loc. 1056-1057<\/div>\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">&#8220;Bir damla bal, bir varil ziftin \u00e7ekemeyece\u011fi sine\u011fi toplar.\u201d S\u00f6ze dostane bir \u015fekilde ve samimi bir \u015fekilde ba\u015flay\u0131n\u0131z.<\/div>\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Dale Carnegie, Dost kazanma ve insanlar\u0131 etkileme sanat\u0131, pg. 84, loc. 1167-1168<\/div>\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">O halde insanlar\u0131 kazanmak ve sizin gibi d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnmelerini sa\u011flamak isterseniz alt\u0131nc\u0131 kural \u015fudur: Kar\u015f\u0131n\u0131zdakinin konu\u015fmas\u0131na f\u0131rsat verin.<\/div>\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Dale Carnegie, Dost kazanma ve insanlar\u0131 etkileme sanat\u0131, pg. 90, loc. 1251-1252<\/div>\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131 etkilemek ve sizin gibi d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnmelerini sa\u011flamak istiyorsan\u0131z yedinci kural \u015fudur: Kar\u015f\u0131n\u0131zdakine fikrin kendisinin oldu\u011fu izlenimini verin.<\/div>\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Dale Carnegie, Dost kazanma ve insanlar\u0131 etkileme sanat\u0131, pg. 93, loc. 1293-1294<\/div>\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Olaya samimiyetle yakla\u015f\u0131n ve olaya kar\u015f\u0131n\u0131zdakinin penceresinden bakmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131n\u0131z.<\/div>\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Dale Carnegie, Dost kazanma ve insanlar\u0131 etkileme sanat\u0131, pg. 96, loc. 1324-1325<\/div>\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">\u0130nsanlar\u0131n sizin gibi d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnmelerini sa\u011flaman\u0131n oniki yolu: 1- Tart\u0131\u015fmamak en b\u00fcy\u00fck tart\u0131\u015fmay\u0131 kazanmakt\u0131r. 2- Ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131n d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncelerine sayg\u0131 g\u00f6steriniz. Ve kimseye yan\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 s\u00f6ylemeyiniz. 3- Yanl\u0131\u015f\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 gecikmeden kabul ediniz. 4- Konu\u015fmalar\u0131n\u0131za dost\u00e7a ba\u015flay\u0131n\u0131z. 5- Kar\u015f\u0131n\u0131zdakinin size evet diye kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131k vermesini sa\u011flay\u0131n\u0131z, 6- Kar\u015f\u0131n\u0131zdakinin \u00e7ok konu\u015fmas\u0131n\u0131 sa\u011flay\u0131n\u0131z. 7- D\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncenizin ba\u015fkas\u0131 taraf\u0131ndan benimsenmemesini kabul ediniz. 8- Meseleye ba\u015fkas\u0131n\u0131n g\u00f6z\u00fcyle bakmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131n\u0131z. 9- Kar\u015f\u0131n\u0131zdakinin d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncelerine sempati g\u00f6steriniz. 10- Asil duygulara hitap ediniz.<\/div>\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Dale Carnegie, Dost kazanma ve insanlar\u0131 etkileme sanat\u0131, pg. 103, loc. 1422-1429<\/div>\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">11- D\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncelerinizi \u00f6rneklerle ortaya koyunuz. 12- \u0130nsanlar\u0131 \u00f6zelliklerini ortaya \u00e7\u0131karabilecekleri \u015fekilde te\u015fvik ediniz.<\/div>\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Dale Carnegie, Dost kazanma ve insanlar\u0131 etkileme sanat\u0131, pg. 103, loc. 1429-1430<\/div>\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">B\u00fcy\u00fck insanlar, \u015fahsi ba\u015far\u0131lar\u0131ndan bahsederek vakit kaybetmeyecek kadar b\u00fcy\u00fckt\u00fcrler. As\u0131rlarca devam eden d\u00fc\u015fmanl\u0131ktan sonra, T\u00fcrkler d\u00fc\u015fmanlar\u0131n\u0131 yurtlar\u0131ndan \u00e7\u0131karmak istediler. Mustafa Kemal, askerlerine hitaben &#8220;Ordular ilk hedefiniz Akdenizdir, ileri&#8221; dedi ve bug\u00fcnk\u00fc tarihin en m\u00fcthi\u015f sava\u015flar\u0131ndan birisi ger\u00e7ekle\u015fti. T\u00fcrkler sava\u015f\u0131 kazanm\u0131\u015f ve yunan generalleri Trikopis ile Dionis teslim olmak zorunda kalm\u0131\u015flard\u0131. B\u00fct\u00fcn halk onlar\u0131 nefretle kar\u015f\u0131larken Mustafa Kemal, d\u00fc\u015fmanlar\u0131na ma\u011flubiyetlerini hat\u0131rlatmayacak \u015fekilde kar\u015f\u0131lad\u0131. &#8211; Buyrun! Yorgun olmal\u0131s\u0131n\u0131z! demi\u015f ve sava\u015f hakk\u0131nda konu\u015ftuktan sonra onlara: &#8220;Sava\u015f, \u00f6yle bir oyundur ki, hazan en kudretli insanlar\u0131 bile y\u0131kar.&#8221; Demi\u015fti. Mustafa Kemal, zaferin en zevkli dakikas\u0131nda d\u00fc\u015fmanlar\u0131n\u0131n gururunu koruyarak, bu kural\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnm\u00fc\u015ft\u00fc. Be\u015finci kural \u015fudur: Kar\u015f\u0131n\u0131zdakinin gururunu koruyunuz.<\/div>\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Dale Carnegie, Dost kazanma ve insanlar\u0131 etkileme sanat\u0131, pg. 113, loc. 1559-1566<\/div>\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">\u0130NSANLARI \u00dcZMEDEN DE\u011e\u0130\u015eT\u0130RMEN\u0130N DOKUZ KURALI 1- \u0130nsanlar\u0131 \u00f6vmekle ve samimi bir takdirle i\u015fe ba\u015flay\u0131n\u0131z! 2- Kar\u015f\u0131n\u0131zdakine yanl\u0131\u015f\u0131n\u0131 dolayl\u0131 olarak anlat\u0131n. 3- Kar\u015f\u0131n\u0131zdakini ele\u015ftirmeden \u00f6nce kendi hatalar\u0131n\u0131zdan bahsedin. 4- Emir vermek yerine sorular sorun. 5- Kar\u015f\u0131n\u0131zdakinin gururunu korumas\u0131 i\u00e7in ona yard\u0131mc\u0131 olun. 6- K\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck de olsa g\u00f6sterilen bir ba\u015far\u0131y\u0131 samimi bir \u015fekilde \u00f6v\u00fcn. 7- \u0130nsanlara muhta\u00e7 olduklar\u0131 k\u0131ymeti verin. 8- Te\u015fvik edin ve yanl\u0131\u015flar\u0131n kolayca d\u00fczeltilebilece\u011fini g\u00f6sterin. 9- Yapt\u0131raca\u011f\u0131n\u0131z i\u015fleri sevdirerek yapt\u0131r\u0131n\u0131z.<\/div>\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Dale Carnegie, Dost kazanma ve insanlar\u0131 etkileme sanat\u0131, pg. 121, loc. 1663-1670<\/div>\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">\u201dAile hayat\u0131n\u0131zda mutlu olmak istiyorsan\u0131z. 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